Does Joan know what the process is, and
is she able, therefore, to participate in it for real? Are they reading her My
Instructions? She is clearly in the last stages of this. She has got to be allowed
to do it, and not be disturbed. She should be helped to be at ease, and allowed
to be involved in this process, and not have a lot of requirements put on her
physically or socially.
From her photograph, she is clearly rather
detached, inward. She's in a real process, and this isn't a social event. So they
have to understand what she needs in this, and serve her in what she needs, which
is to be deeply involved in this transitional process. She doesn't have any more
business here. Hopefully, they have all said what they need to say, and they can
let her do this. This is what she needs to do.
She needs to die
— that is what has to happen. So what she requires is a sacred environment of
complete restfulness and peace, free from anxiety, free from outward demands,
and be allowed to enter into the depth of this Process without disturbance. So
just constantly being kept at ease, and allowed to go into that
depth, and not required to come out to some social or conversational sense — that
is what is needed.
So devotees really need to serve her ease,
and the sacredness of the situation where she is dying needs to be established
very fully. No one should disturb Joan with their own obvious difficulties in
confronting the death of somebody. Everybody has to deal with their own
death in it, too.
So, they have to all understand this process
of death is a profound process, and a very positive one, if you let it
be so, and if you serve it to be so. It is positive for everyone, including
the person going through the transition. That individual has to be given the permission
to do it, and you are serving him or her even by giving them the conditions for
It is not about making Joan outward-directed. It's
about having her one-pointed in the process that she's really involved in, which,
as I said, is not a social one. Although there are elements of human contact that
are useful, at this point it should be a rather minimal form of contact.
other words it should be enough to be chanting My Name, saying My Name, touching
her while saying My Name — not social communications, but simply sacred communications
that focus her one-pointedly in a surrendered disposition, turning herself to
If she seems confused and unavailable, appropriate communications
can be made, such as that I am Helping her. The body itself is quite chaotic at
this point. So to try to require a person to get very integrated with the body
and what it would take to be communicative socially to do so is really an imposition
and can be very uncomfortable for the person. So there's no need for it.
a Sacred Event. It's about surrender and devotional one-pointedness. So just keep
her directed in that surrendering, devotional disposition — calm, undisturbed,
Direct her above, direct her to Me, above.
To be released above. And if she has any outward awareness she should be turned
to My Image, which they should have there. She should be called to remember Me
in My bodily (Human) Form, and then look for Me above, however she may perceive
Me — in My bodily (Human) Form, in the form of a "Bright" Light above, and so
on. The Instructions I've already Given should be repeated to her.
it's that turning, one-pointedness, to Me and to above, to Me above, that is the
process she should be comfortably concentrated in, given over to, without disturbance.
Obviously there is sorrow and difficulty in such an event, no
doubt. But on the other hand, to project that is to project your own lack of understanding
and maturity onto the other person who is going through this profound process.
So those who are present must be able to let her go, surrender her to go, rather
than try to get her to hold on, trying to get her to stay, not let her go, try
to engage her socially.
All of these efforts are not appropriate
here in this situation, in which she must relinquish and be free to relinquish.
You have to give her the permission to do it, in effect — those who are intimate
with her need to give her that permission. So Jack needs to be doing that. He
should appreciate his role there, so that he can serve her.
is something similar to what you would do if your intimate were having a child,
giving birth-you have to participate in it. You've got to participate in that
process, and serve that person's participation in that process. So what you do
at a birth is similar in some sense to when you are serving the person's death
transition. You have to encourage their participation in it, and you have
to yourself participate in it sympathetically.
case of birth, you are looking for a child to come out the lower. In the death
case, effectively, the child is coming out the other end, the top end. It is a
birth in the other direction, and you have to encourage their exit, their birthing
of themselves, effectively, out of their own body, into the dimension
So this is the kind of service to be done for somebody
in that situation, and it has some resemblance to serving a woman who is giving
birth. Sorrow is about the holding on, and the fear of loss, and thinking about
Do not think about yourself. Think about Me, and give
that person who's going through this process your regard, move the faculties out
of your own content, to Me. That's Ruchira
Avatara Bhakti Yoga, that's the devotional practice of surrender to Me,
that's what she must be doing. And everybody there should be doing the
same thing, with a particular focus on her in particular and what she requires.
But it's not only about doing things for her. It's participating
in it with her, and getting with it in the profound positive sense, not
in the casual positive sense. There are profound feelings necessarily associated
with such a thing, but that's fine — be profound about it, rather than
collapsed on self.
In fundamental terms it is no more a negative
event than a birth. It's an inevitable process, it is very knowable in some respects,
just as the birth process is knowable, and there are certain things you do that
make it work best, that's most comfortable and most positive. And there are things
you can do that work against that. It's the same with the death process.
It's a kind of birth out the head end, as opposed to the birth through the lower
end that brings someone physically into this world. It's using a physical vehicle
to have it happen, there's an exit from the body taking place. An entity is passing
from the body into a new environment. In the case of death, it is the environment
above the head.
It is not necessary to get into all kinds of
technical or fanciful presumptions about it — it's just about understanding basically
that this is what's happening. Feel it. You can see on her face and body that
that is what she's doing. Look at what is in front of your face — you can see
it — that's what's going on with her. Not some tragedy. Let her be concentrated.
Encourage her to do it, to get with it, and not be afraid. She's being drawn into
a process which is wholly positive in its fundamental terms.
Adi Da Samraj