Children and Young People
in Adidam

Children also suffer, but they do show this Life-sign of a spontaneous commitment to the Motive of Ecstasy Itself, of True Joy. This is why their company is pleasing — because they, without all the baggage of adults (in their suffering at any rate) rather typically show the sign of this commitment that is fundamental to being human, to being born. All other signs made in Nature, or by reaction, are there to be overcome. And it is a great struggle — no doubt. Avatar Adi Da Samraj

This section is organized as follows:

1. Children and Conscious Childraising

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art by Maja van der Veer

Adi Da Samraj has given extensive instruction about child development, the process of human growth, and conscious childraising based on the principles of non-separation, prior unity, and truly sacred culture. Adults in the Adidam community have studied, practiced, and learned many lessons about the serious responsibility of raising children.

 

	Big Wisdom Free School San Rafael, CA

Many devotees choose not to have children because they understand the profound obligations of parenting and decide to dedicate their time to the inherent demands of spiritual practice. But for children who live in the community of devotees, we have provided excellent education programs ranging from preschool to high school level. Big Wisdom Free School (in San Rafael, California) and the Garden of Lions (in upstate New York) are examples of Adidam schools that successfully served the education of young people during the 1980's and 1990's.

Big Wisdom Free School San Rafael, CA

This section includes stories about the children and young people in Adidam, and their experiences growing up in the Adidam community. We also will be adding personal accounts from the adults who learned how to serve children, and from the young people who made the choice to practice the Way of Adidam when they reached adulthood.

Please also visit the website published by our community organization dedicated to serving children and educating others about Adi Da Samraj's Instruction on children: The Vision of Mulund Institute.

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1.1. Talks or Books by Adi Da Related to Children and Childraising

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		Three Talks by Avatar Adi Da Samraj about the love of children and Spiritual practice. Adi Da: "I Love men, women, children, walls, and frogs with the same profound intensity. I simply have a different kind of relationship with every being. I am in Love with children! I mean deeply in Love with them. I have a profound love relationship with them."

"We feel the Mystery and even breathe it. We are more than what we look like.
We don't know what anything IS. We ARE the Mystery. IT is all one feeling."

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1.2. Stories about Children and Childraising from Devotees

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		Roar Like a Lion — A three-year-old is drawn beyond his fear by Adi Da Samraj.
		Pandas, Woodpeckers, and Renunciation — Avatar Adi Da teaches seven-year-olds about ego-transcendence.
		Remember the Mystery in Which You Live — Avatar Adi Da Samraj responds to a young boy who wants to know how he can stop being "righteous".
		The Peach — Adi Da reads the mind and heart of one young devotee.
		"My Self Is In My Heart" — The story of a young boy's remarkable relationship with Avatar Adi Da over the course of several years, as told by his father.
		Loss of Intimacy and Inappropriate Behavior — Frank Marrero tells the story of a lesson he learned as a teacher at Adidam's Big Wisdom Free School, about using Adi Da's wisdom about relationships and intimacy to address children's inappropriate behavior.
		A Spontaneous Gesture of Heart-Recognition of Adi Da — From an 18-month old child.

1.3. Videos about Young People and their Relationship to Adi Da

		The First Three Stages Of Life: Serving the Right, True, and Free Development of Children and Young People and Completing the Human Work of Individuation, Socialization, and Integration for Adults. Presenting Instructions Given By His Divine Presence, Avatar Adi Da Samraj Compiled by Meg Fortune McDonnell, for The Vision Of Mulund Institute An Adidam Practical Wisdom Guidebook August 2011 edition order here Table Of Contents
		Remember About Being Happy: Instructions to and about Children Given By His Divine Presence, Avatar Adi Da Samraj CD: August 2011 order here
		What, Where, When, How, Why, and Who To Remember To Be Happy by Avatar Adi Da Samraj February 2000 hardcover edition order here
		Vegetable Surrender or Happiness Is Not Blue by Heart-Master Da and two little girls September 1998 edition order here A humorous and instructive story written by Adi Da Samraj for young children. Onion One-Yin and his vegetable friends embark on a search for someone who can help them solve their problems — and discover the secret of how to be happy, right now! Illustrated with black and white line drawings.
		The Scale of the Very Small: Establishing Yogic Responsibility for Your Reproductive Potential (Including Regenerative Sexuality and Orgasm, Birth Control, Conscious Conception, Pregnancy, Birth, and Infant Care) by the Ruchira Buddha, Avatar Adi Da Samraj 1997 edition order here Avatar Adi Da’s Instruction on how and why we incarnate, death and reincarnation, conscious conception and birth control, Spiritually sensitive pregnancy and infant care.
		The Lesson Of Life: A Consideration with Young Practioners of the Way of Adidam Vol 6, The 20th Anniversary Series DVD order here Avatar Adi Da responds to a gathering of His young devotees who were on retreat at Adi Da Samrajashram (Avatar Adi Da's principal Hermitage, in Fiji) in 1991.
		Look at the Sunlight on the Water: Educating Children for a Life of Self-Transcending Love and Happiness by Da Free John 1983 edition out of print
		Love, Wisdom, and Happiness in the First Three Stages of Life: Booklet 1 of the Conscious Childrearing Series compiled and edited by The Vision Of Mulund Institute Based on Instructions Given by Sri Sri Bhagwan Adi Da, The Da Avatar 1995 edition order here Detailed, practical instruction and Wisdom on the first three stages of life: individuation (1-7 years); socialization (8-14 years); and discrimination and integration (15-21 years). Includes Talks and Essays by Avatar Adi Da on conscious child-rearing.
		The Practice of Ecstasy with Children: Booklet 3 of The Conscious Childrearing Series compiled and edited by The Vision Of Mulund Institute Based on Instructions Given by Sri Sri Bhagwan Adi Da, The Da Avatar 1995 edition To order call 1-877-770-0772
		Four Primary Principles of Conscious Childrearing Based on the Teaching of Da Free John Prepared by the Education Department of The Johannine Daist Communion 1985 edition out of print Intimacy is the Healing Principle The Principle of Attraction Discipline is an Act of Love within the Culture of Expectation Transcending Sexual Neurosis in Childhood
		God Games Games created to ground children in feeling the Mystery. Based on the Wisdom and Instruction of Adi Da Samraj. order here

2. Adolescence as a Spiritual Opportunity

Many (perhaps most) adolescents tend to spend their adolescence occupied in what Adi Da characterizes as a struggle between dependence and independence. At a certain point, they "leave the nest", and settle into the patterns of conventional "adulthood" (defined primarily by family, friends, and job) for the long run, through the end of their lives.

But adolescence can serve a greater purpose than just this transitional struggle. It is a time when one has the free energy and attention (along with the motivation) to ask deep questions like: Why are we here? and: What is the purpose of life? Almost all of us do at least briefly consider questions such as these when we are adolescents, but then the responsibilities of adulthood impinge greatly on our time and energy, and these questions usually go "underground". (They sometimes emerge explosively, decades later, in the not altogether conscious form of a mid-life crisis. But doing things to make oneself feel "young" — like buying sports cars or having affairs with younger people — doesn't actually effectively address the deeper question of one's mortality: "What's the point of it all if we're going to die in the end, anyway?")

The usual life sequence is described in the Hindu tradition in four stages: brahmacharya: the young person and student; grihastha: the householder, married with children; vanaprastha: the retiree (a transitional period); and sannyasa: the renunciate, whose life is focused on Spiritual Realization. (In our contemporary materialistic society, the final, spiritually oriented "renunciate" stage has been eliminated, and "retirement" is mostly devoted to materialistic preoccupations.) The householder phase is presumed to be generally unavoidable — something one must experience oneself for a few decades — to get it out of one's system . . . to the degree where one is ready and willing to take up renunciate practice (in a non-idealistic fashion).

However, a fortunate few adolescents engage in a fuller consideration of deep questions than most, and allow that consideration to move their life in a profound direction, one that bypasses the usual life sequence. (Perhaps they are being assisted by spiritual understanding carried over from past lives. And perhaps they are also receiving the wisdom and spiritual blessing of a great Spiritual Master like Adi Da.) Their life has the possibility of proceeding straight from brahmacharya to sannyasa, giving them a far greater opportunity than most for Spiritual Realization (regardless of whether they go on to have intimate partners, children, jobs, etc. — as is the case within life-positive traditions like Adidam, where renunciation is not defined by ascetic dissociation from ordinary life, but by one's complete focus on the Divine in the midst of — and transforming one's relationship with — everything else).

The stories below are about adolescents who are engaging their adolescence and early adulthood as just such a spiritual opportunity. For example, Neeshee Pandit lived and served for a couple of years in the Hermitage Sanctuary of Adi Da Samrajashram. And Max Rykov is currently living and serving at The Mountain of Attention Sanctuary.

		An Ecstatic Falling into Him — Nicole tells the story of how she discovered Bhagavan Adi Da. While doing so, she recounts two remarkable dreams. In the first, the whole human condition is revealed to her in a kind of metaphor. In the second dream, Adi Da appears to her, and connects with her directly and personally, correcting a false, cultic view of Him that she had previously held.
		He Is Satisfaction — Neeshee Pandit (19, at the time): "I was sitting at home one day in such a state when a remarkable event occurred. An unbelievable Energy descended upon me and I began shaking. Its Thickness enveloped my entire body and it was vibrating with an unspeakable intensity. I swooned in ecstasy. . . . Adi Da's Spiritual Invasion of the body-mind is Satisfaction, Happiness, and Love."
		Never Has God Revealed Himself So Fully — Maksim Igorevich Rykov (20, at the time): "My interest in God became dormant, and did not re-emerge until later in high school, when I became heavily interested in philosophy. I intuitively felt that there was something greater in life; that all the answers were available, but I had no idea how to access them. . . . I yearned for God, but all I got from books was knowledge, not the Divine Itself."

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